Day 16: What’s Your New Possible?

I have now learned that it wasn’t me that was faulty, it was my planning process. So I have developed a new one, and you’ll learn that in the days ahead.

Listen to the audio, then do the journaling activity below.

In the past, my goal-setting and action-planning process looked something like this:

1. Set a big, scary goal – if it didn’t freak me out, it wasn’t big enough

2. Look at the gap between where I wanted to be and where I am now

3. Set a plan for how I was going to get from A to B – usually based on how other people had achieved a similar journey.

In a nutshell, I created a picture in my head and on paper about what the journey was going to look like.

The problem is that the journey has never, and I mean NEVER, matched the picture I had created.

Back when I had low self-esteem and lacked confidence, the disparity between the picture in my head and reality caused me a lot of pain and loss.

It gave permission for my inner fear voice to reign supreme – “See I told you, your not good enough!”

I felt disillusioned and demotivated.

In my worst moments, I had the full-blown self-hates happening.

I have now learned that it wasn’t me that was faulty, it was my planning process.

So I have developed a new one. You’ll learn that in the days ahead.

Today’s Journaling Prompt…

Today is set aside for reflection on your adventure so far. Look back at the wild idea you wrote on Day 7 and the columns of possibility you wrote on Day 12. Has anything shifted? Can you now see how to make some tasks more achievable?

Use the stream-of-consciousness style. Don’t hold back!